But he doesnt want to give me another chance. her but as time went on the love she had for me He never drank excessively before. She is taking money from me but goes home and sleep with her baby father who doesnt give her fig leaf. Next day, that night, she called leaves a crying voicemail that her heart just cant give up on me yet, and wonders how I feel. but he kept doing things that broke my heart. He started applying for new jobs to return back home but he didnt get them. Anyway, by the way I acted I feel like I pushed her away. My ex has a crush on some guy who makes her feel better because I unknowingly cut her down. Hi Betty, This situation may be your wake-up call to take care of yourself. After talking with her and picking away to try to understand what is bothering her she has told me that she does not love me intimately anymore but she loves me as the son of our Father. That is a huge change in life. Told me not to worry about baby daddy. But if you made a habit of lying and getting caught, that would explain why your ex hates you. We are in relationship for 4 years. After a day of feeling so heartbroken and finally turning to God for the matter, I sent her a message saying I realized what I was doing to her. I keep them written in my heart, and two who were so much more are forever to have touched my soul. If I should tell him, how would I assuage that conversation? He has seen terrible things. Im afraid that im pushing to hard and it will drive her off, but on the other hand im afraid that we will grow apart even further We have been together for 5 yrs how do i get him to fall in love with me again? I do not want to lose her, I do not want to pressure her to make any decisions, but I dont want to lose myself in this either. He told me the next day that he almost walked out. p.s he has no relationships with anyone. And our relationship is still weak. I made my mistake but I really do love him and want to be forever! Why not reach out to women that you meet and make new friends? He just says if I block her and she kills herself then I will never forgive myself My boyfriend and I met 2 years ago, I fell for him first sight. Understand that it's natural to still love your ex. I just dont know how to get there. We is currently finishing her masters thesis right now too and says she doesnt have the emotional capacity to focus on too many things at once, that we should focus on our own issues for the time being and try to work together when she is emotional adept to do so. Be sure whoever you go to is specifically trained as a marriage therapist, because that is its own field. My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for two years and a half. I know that will sound just the opposite of what it seems so let me explain: People use sex as a way to AVOID a real relationship. A person experiencing dementia might display love and hate to their caregiver within the same few moments. Hi C I felt I could trust her enough to give her the chance to show me if this was going to be different. He went to drop her off and when he came back he came back to greet me just like he always does and that threw me off. In a weird way I am hoping this will bring is closer. I dont hold it against him. I dont want to ever hurt him again, but at this point, I feel like hes punishing me. or what else we can do if we are not together living in separated stated . Hes a hard worker but unfortunately when stress comes into play he does not handle it very well and turns to heroin. We can hurt a person who is vulnerable considerably more than a person who has her guard up all the time. Im writing this to say that the advice on this website worked. Eventually my husband walked into the office & put his hands on the back of the chair; leaned towards me & growled in a cold, hard voice that He had hated me his whole $*#@%@! This is due to mobile. It was because a stranger at the airport asked me for directions and according to my boyfriend I wasnt very useful to him as my sense of directions isnt great so I should have asked him for help instead of giving answer myself. I gave him a chance to walk away, he fell apart said he missed me so much loved me so much. Every emktion but happiness. i was so devastated. So she came to my place and looks big. In January of the following year stupidly I told my stepsons ex-girlfriend that I used to have a crush on her. But, when he would get angry he blacks out and get verbally abusive. Often we go into a relationship looking for all the validation, nurturing, warmth and support that parents didnt give us. I so wished I had NEVER said those words. And that she wanted to leave him for me. My problem is, I feel that I gave him an inch and he completely disregarded how I might feel if he went further than her pleasing him. I want to be with him but hes not doing anything to gain his trust back. What does that mean? hes very quiet and antisocial, doesnt like the neighbours etc, i love them all! i feel like im cheating him of his 20s or that im not good enough and am way too old for him. Go to the library for some quiet time together And then HE cheated and he doesnt want to give YOU another chance??? Could you please reply to my post from Sept 20? It just hurts that the love doesnt stop him from behaving like this and hurting me repeatedly. You might attraction and repulsion towards someone. He has had a hard time forgiving me. This is why she sees you as stuck in a cage. I know he would want to move very slowly if theres even a chance for us but that was very upsetting to hear. He told me that he was not attracted to me, that he had pictured two younger girls wondering what they looked like naked. He claims hes a changed man and that he will do anything to prove to me that he really loves me. Because we are all imperfect here. He promised to our children things would be better and to me. Hi Mark It is normal for people to be attracted to someone of the opposite sex whom they dont know very well. I asked hime to borrow 30 dollars for the week he picked a fight with me so he didnt have to give it to me and spent over 125 on beer and cigarettes for the week and i borrowed money from my mother. We dated for 2 years and it just ended after she found out I cheated on her a year ago in 2015 while on vacation in Germany. This is a terribly sad and painful experience in your life that will take time to heal from. So he said hed delete it too. https://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html. Dr. Deb be honest please if they got together in June is it true and possible that like my husband said he is in love with the other women. I cannot seem to focus on anything. We fell madly in love and talked all the time about getting married etc etc. He did little stuff like drew roses cut them out and tied a ribbon to send me for v day. No one was outside when I went. The one person with whom it works proves to you, in the course of being together, that he or she really gets who you are. Dear Dr Deb sometimes we dont argue and we talk about the arguments and we both vow to do better and it goes right back to square one. He says its not my fault that he just wants to see what other people are like and travel. Saying he needed time and space away from me but that we were still together ( I didnt understand him on this at all where I guess I kept trying to push myself back into his life). My question is how long does it normally take? I started to frantically look for ways to fix the situation and I think that I came across as too needy. Your heart is broke, but because you crave a situation where your value isnt seen or understood. Its difficult for me to give her space because she seems to be doing fine without me. Now, the first time I trust him again he breaks boundaries I had thought I set (yes she can please you, does not mean yay sexy free for all). The first among the 15 ideas for a perfect first date is to plan a place where you both will be comfortable Hi Broken 79 He is not a doer. I was told once, the best thing a father can do for his children, is love their mother, Hi yes he is a very good father to the children and at this present time has said he is trying to get back to the relationship he is being more warm and friendly towards me too. depressed I cant do anything right, I cant stop If your heart is broken, maybe you need to take action on that. We were in the same house together for most of this time and slowly it turned into taking a break rather than breaking up. 5 days passed and no word. I am a technology sales rep that am at the mercy of the companies I work for and in the last 8 years I have worked for 5 companies, and in that time might have been unemployed for a total of 4 months. Weve lived together for about a year & the night before this happened, we talked about getting engaged & how we were going to make plans for the future. Ive been trying work on myself but recently about two weeks ago I lied about being with someone else when my partner and I were not exclusive or dating, now she mad, disappointed, wont talk to me, has blocked me in every way possible. we tried to end things on numerous occasions but because we felt so deeply about each other, we continued. Me and my ex were dating for about 5years and 3 months. But one night i got really drunk, and Im a mean drunk. He has now started to get womens phone numbers in bars and at work to prove a point, and that has made things 10xs worse between us. Her own family even neglected her. And seriously my heart dropped into my stomach. Its pushing me away. Thank you, My need of understanding the whys of his emotional affair with our mutual friend threaten to destroy any hope of reconciliation. Not only that, but I dont think I could handle it with how much I care for him. She said yesterday give me space chris and Ill contact you when Im ready I made a simple reply by saying will do I promise I wanted to say I promise cause I not even going to be first to txt her or make any contact I I do promise and I hope that promise will also build that trust again but I know I have a lot of work to do. I only saw him when skiing only ever once did we go out for a meal in evening as he would need to give reason for going out which wasnt a problem! Our initial argument/cause of separation was no longer a problem. For more than a year now, he has been the perfect boyfriend who has treated me above and beyond, showered me with love and affection, who accepts and understands that I still cant trust him and that I still get mad at him for his previous actions every now and then. I went to the doctor to find out for sure and I was. If I hurt him, Im sure my behavior could lead to hurting friends and family if I dont change for the better. However I understood that she o ices with her man and his parent. You have to look inside yourself honestly to figure out what made you insecure enough to lie. Hi Kells Hi Raquel, While this form of profession has undeniably beautiful payouts (not monetarily ;D) it often plagues me with a self critical view that nothing I make is quite good enough. I was very ungrateful towards him. He is very loud and comes with a whole load of annoying habits and thats even before you take into account his inability to emotionally connect. 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